I don’t think I have ever written more important blog than this one.

“Be the love you want to see in the world and watch your life transform.” You have heard many versions of this throughout your lifetime, I am sure. BUT, very few seem to know that opening our hearts is the secret to our peace and happiness. This is also the secret to creating the peace and happiness we crave in our world! Our inner and outer world is always a reflection of how we think and feel.

We all have the same goal, whether we are conscious of it or not, of self-mastery. We achieve self-mastery by becoming the master of our thoughts, feelings, and physical body. How do we do this exactly, you ask?

 We start out as babies and children, completely dependent on others within our home and school to have our needs met. Invariably, our needs are never fully met. We might have our physical needs met but we don’t receive our love language or we develop incorrect beliefs about ourselves that limit our happiness or success.

These unmet needs prevent us from loving ourselves. These feelings cause us to adopt all sorts of unhealthy habits or patterns to fill the emptiness within ourselves, assuage our pain or bring us short-term pleasure.

We control others when we don’t feel in control ourselves. We become perfectionists when we continually judge ourselves and others as deficient. And the more we judge, the more deficiencies we see. We get into substance abuse to anesthetize our repressed feelings. We become emotionally abusive because we are afraid of or feel we don’t deserve intimacy with others.

All our pain and subsequent unhealthy patterns dictate the course of our lives… until we start doing ‘the work’.

‘The work’ is coming to love ourselves. We all spend our lives trying to love ourselves but if we consciously focus on this task, we make headway so much faster!

We need to forgive ourselves for not receiving what we needed and for developing unhealthy patterns as a result (Chapter 4 of my second book explains how to accomplish this task). Then, we need to forgive those that hurt us; forgiveness is not what the majority think it is! Then, we need to take the steps to coming to love ourselves (it is the largest chapter in the book).

But I digress…Yes, my book will help you but, right now, I am trying to show you how opening our hearts creates the inner and outer abundance we all crave….

Let me re-cap:

1. We have unmet needs.
2. Our pain causes us to develop unhealthy patterns until…
3. We stop seeing ourselves as victims and come to forgive ourselves and those that hurt us and take the actual steps to coming to love ourselves.

Then, what happens?

1. We find that the more we love who we are, the more unhealthy patterns we drop, which in turn, makes us love and respect ourselves even more.
2. The more we love and respect ourselves, the more we are able to love and respect others.
3. Our love for ourselves and others grows, opening our hearts, more and more, helping us access our God-like selves, which then help us think, feel and act from the highest vision possible.

Opening our hearts allows us to see ourselves from the highest vision possible, which lifts us up to a higher frequency through which Universal Intelligence can then manifest equivalent conditions and experiences in our lives. Once the majority of us have this kind of self-mastery, we can change the world in the same way.

And you might say, ‘Meredith, that’s nice. This will never happen.” And, I would say this to you:

If you don’t open your hearts to yourself and others, you will NEVER obtain the peace and happiness you so badly want in your life, never mind change the world! It’s as simple as that.

We can start with opening our hearts this Valentine’s Day. Last year, I wrote a blog explaining that February 14^th is not just another Hallmark holiday and described its’ importance. Valentine’s Day is a perfect day to start seeing your greatness and share your heart with others.

Hi! I’m Meredith Deasley BA, RHN, RNCP, ACC and I have been connecting individuals and families to health and happiness for almost 20 years now. I am an accredited life coach and registered holistic nutritionist, who helps people take the steps to coming to love themselves and see their greatness. If you need help opening your heart to yourself or others, please contact me by clicking here.