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Emotional Causes of Physical Ailments


Many of you have heard me say that the body keeps communicating with us whether we listen or not.  Each physical ailment is our body’s attempt to communicate something important to us and there is usually an emotional link. I thought it might interest you to know some of the emotional causes behind ear infections, the flu and skin conditions – seeing as how I have covered the physical ins and outs of these ailments in prior posts.

Ear problems, in general, represent the following –

Right ear: Challenges in the right ear represent the thought process: “I don’t want to hear it!” A child is extra sensitive to what others are saying to them or around them.  They may even be fearful of what they are hearing around them.  Or they are shutting out criticism or conflict around them.

Left ear: Challenges in the left ear represent the thought process: “I don’t want to listen to myself” A child is extra sensitive, fearful or not wanting to hear their inner voice or thought process.  Or they are avoiding internal criticism or conflict.

The Flu or Influenza, represents the following –

When an adult or child contracts the flu, they feel overwhelmed by negative forces or beliefs and feel weak and helpless i.e. “at their mercy”.  There is a fear that the worst is going to happen to them and as a result, are afraid of taking life in fully.  They may feel unsupported or unprotected and may be undergoing great change at this time in their life.

Skin problems, represents the following –

“I hope I pass the audition.”  They have intense concerns about how they think others see them and often have deep insecurities and fears.  They might be letting things or others “get under their skin.”  They have a strong desire for affection but are fearful of being hurt if they search for affection and do not receive it.

I feel that these descriptions will help you gain further insight into why you or your child experiences any of these health challenges.  And, if you are a parent, the more insight you gain into how your child’s mind works, the better able you will be at guiding your child towards a healthier and happier adulthood.

Just to give you an example of how I accomplished this within my own family, let me share with you what happened with my daughter, Paige, in December.  So, Paige is 9 years old.  She had never had an ear infection in her life but her older sister had experienced a few over the years.  I have always treated the infections in the way I shared with you in my earlier post, and they would invariably disappear within 24 hours. Well, this was not the case with Paige – let me tell you!

The pain subsided for Paige but then, unbeknownst to me, she went into the washroom and used about 6 Q-tips to clear the wax from her right ear.  Surprise, surprise, her ear started to hurt again and it remained that way, despite the natural remedies that I continually administered.  Two full days later, she seemed no better.  I called our local health store to see if there was a remedy that I had not thought of giving her.  They told me to take her to the doctor to obtain a diagnosis.  This is not something that I readily do anymore due to past experiences, which some of you may recall.

After more time passed, I decided to take her to the doctor for a diagnosis and didn’t he puncture her eardrum with the scope!  And then he told me that he couldn’t see anything in her ear but proceeded to prescribe antibiotics.  As soon as we were out of the doctor’s office, Paige collapsed in excruciating pain and could not even bear to open her eyes as the light bothered her to such a degree.  I got her home and looked in her ear and it was literally filling up with blood – the level of blood just kept getting higher and higher.  That night was literally one big nightmare for her. The next day, I took Paige to a hands-on healer who made Paige more comfortable and she slept much of the next couple of days but every once in a while, she would awake in considerable pain.  It was one high dose of homeopathy that got her on her way to healing.  It took 4 weeks for her eardrum to stop leaking fluid and to heal fully (the books warned that it would take 4-6 weeks to heal).

In the many days that she was at home with me, I read my usual flurry of books in order to obtain the answers to what was going on with Paige.  Just prior to her ear hurting, she had eaten well and had not consumed dairy or wheat (the two biggest dietary culprits for ear infections).  She had, however, complained for a number of nights about how much the things that the children at school were saying, were bothering her.  As I read about the emotional connection to the right ear, her words came flooding back into my mind.  It was time for us to have a discussion.

I explained to Paige what causes infections in the right ear, from an emotional perspective.  I asked her if she remembered being extra bothered by those around her, before this happened.  She admitted that she remembered.  I asked her if what she heard others say had seemed unwise to her.  And she was happy to embellish her response to that question.  I told her that she had let others’ words literally hurt her ear, showing her the books that explained this in greater detail to her.  After further discussion, we role-played.  I pretended to be one of the children in her class, teasing her.  Her job was to say to herself, “He does not know me.  He does not know my life or what I have been through.  He knows not what he says.”  Paige did an excellent job of understanding the concept and role-playing.  A few days later, when she was back at school, Paige put her new learning to use.  A girl teased her.  This time, her mind’s response was “You do not know me or what I have been through.”  Paige let the girl’s words roll off her back. Paige’s horrible ear infection allowed her to learn a valuable life lesson. And if it had not gone on for the length of time it did, I would not have been able to teach her that lesson.  Paige went on to become the happiest I have ever seen her and remains that way two months later.  Apparently, others’ words had been bothering her for a lot longer than I knew!

If you are interested in learning about the connection between other physical ailments and the emotions, please let me know and let others learn from your experiences.

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Until next time,


Meredith Deasley

Certified Life Coach, Registered Holistic Nutritionist, Spiritual Vitality Expert - Published Author, Speaker, and Teacher.


  1. Trace on February 2, 2011 at 2:24 pm

    I would be interested inthe books that you had read to find the information to these ailments. I have a 6 year old that comes down with a fever and that is about it. Some times he is up and about with it and others he is tired, cranky and not himself. I don’t take him to the dr. anymore as I get no where.

    Thank you

    • Meredith on February 3, 2011 at 9:52 am

      Hi Trace,
      My two favourite books on this topic are Louise Hay’s ‘You Can Heal Your Life” and “Messages from the Body” by Narayan-Singh (there are other books with this title but this one is the most descriptive, although it is rather harsh – you need to order it from

      The emotional cause of fevers is “burning up” with anger and stored resentment. A child with a lot of fevers has some fear of anticipated outcomes and may be hung up in the past. They may be afraid of losing friendships or be reacting to lost friendships i.e. abandonment.
      Thanks for stopping by my site and for reading the post.

  2. Geraldine on September 4, 2012 at 7:44 am

    I loved reading your comments about ear infections and flu and how they are linked to our emotional issues we may be carrying. What about the left ear….is it things we dont want to listen to that are true and we dont want to face?

  3. Pamela on May 14, 2016 at 7:12 am

    I opened this link because I am currently sick with a bad head cold and wanted to know if it could be connected to emotional stress.. As I read about Paige, I couldn’t help but tear up. I’ve learned so much about myself over the years and lately I’ve been going back to when I was 7.. My behavior and reactions are habits that I created when I was about 7. During that time I had a really bad ear infection that spread through my whole body. My parents feared I wasn’t going to make it through or even be normal again. I lost all mobility even moving my head was impossible. I hallucinated everything you can imagine. My healing took 3-6 weeks after an LDS Blessing. I often looked back and my parents and I would try to figure out what triggered it. Now it all makes sense!

  4. John Gatesby on June 25, 2024 at 6:25 am

    Understanding the emotional connections to physical ailments is fascinating and insightful. It’s amazing how addressing underlying emotional issues can lead to physical healing, as shown in the story about Paige. This holistic approach not only treats symptoms but also helps develop emotional resilience, which is crucial for overall well-being.

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